A
person who is co-dependent with another person struggles
with issues related to self-worth, and uses that other
person (often both people are using each other) as a
means of distraction from uncomfortable thoughts and
feelings. Many times, consciously or unconsciously,
the co-dependent person is trying to find a good parent
to give them what they didn't get in their own childhood.
In many cases, co-dependency involves desperate attempts
to deal with and avoid dealing with their negative feelings
of self-worth as well as painful feelings of guilt,
shame, fear, anger and sadness that have originated
in childhood. (Also See Adults with Troubled Childhoods).
Issues
Related to Change
The emotional and behavioral problems that we face,
that affect our feelings of self-worth, our confidence,
our relationships with others, as well as our physical
health can be changed. How to do this, and how long
it takes, varies according to many factors. The basic
factors that affect change involve answering the following
questions:
- What
is it you want to change about yourself?
- Do
you want a "complete personality overhaul," or just
"a minor tune up
- How
much energy are you prepared to dedicate to the
change you desire?
- Do
you have a system, and the tools necessary to take
you from where you are to where you want to be?
Psychotherapy
can help in all these areas. Of the three, your desire
or will to change is the most important ingredient.
There are methods (tools) such as guided imagery and
hypnosis as well as many others which can help you to
increase your desire, even if you have mixed feelings
about changing (very common) or have tried and failed
in the past.
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